Nice Guys Finish Last

I was browsing through cute MSN articles as I always do, and the one I came across today was "Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?" The article was pretty shitty, but the topic is my inspiration at the moment.

Personally, I do think the nice guys finish last. Females, well... I'll speak for myself, I say guys are assholes, and that good guys don't exist. When I get hurt, I put blame on the guy, initially. Of course after it sinks in deeper, I start to blame myself and begin te self-loathing bit I do so well (and must change!). I opened up to the guy. I trusted the guy. I let myself vulnerable to the guy. I let myself get hurt by the guy. The guy is bad.

Why bad boys are appealing. I have talked to Mark about this before and this is why I think I fall for the bad boys... you feel special. You, I, whatever. When a guy has kind of a bad reputation or doesn't get along well with many people, hates people and is hated by people, you feel really special when you get positive attention from this boy. Because you see this side of the guy that no one else gets to see, normally. I think these type of guys know what they're doing most of the time and have done it to many people. But anyway, you see the sensitive side to the guy, and you think you are the reason this side is being brought out, when in reality it's just an act. Most likely you will be told, "Watch out for so-and-so, he's done this-and-this." Usually the response is, "but you just don't know him like I do. He's so sweet to me. He cares about me. He's different with me." Of course, you end up hurt in the end.

Why are the nice guys finishing last? I honestly have had AMAZING guys in my life! But those didn't work out because I was so hung up on like the two bad boys of my life. It doesn't make sense to me that I have wonderful ex-boyfriends and male friends who are not in great relationships. Is it the chase that we like? The case of wanting only what is unattainable? Do we say we want good, sweet men but really want the jerks?

What is wrong? I think girls like myself need to snap out of it and appreciate the wonderful guys and learn from mistakes to stop the horrible "I always end up with bad guys" syndrome.

Then again, don't these good guys deserve more than what these neurotic girls (like myself) have to offer?

xox,
Moni

Start

Here's the beginning of a new bloggy blog. After an entire day at work, I finally came through and chose a blog spot, name 20 minutes before I have to hop and skip to my car. Congratulations Monica! You're a star. I'm sure I'll write something later tonight.


xox,
Monica