For about the past three years (approx.) I've been in these relationships or situations where a guy has a world of problems and somehow I get dubbed the solution. Maybe that's a bit exaggerative. Haha.
I can think of a handful of guys I've experienced this with. One that pops up in particular is Brian. I recognized Brian from his blog. I remember having had commented on his blog a week before saying I liked his hair color a lot. When I recognized him at a show (Rufio and Motion City Sountrack, maybe?). I told him I recognized him, and liked his hair color. He blushed and was all embarrassed. Haha. We talked for a little bit, I introduced him to the people I was with, his friend had flaked out on him, but he still wanted to get photos with his brand new digital Canon. Sometime the next day when I was checking my blog, I realized that he paid for my account to be "elite" and he had written a blog about meeting a cute girl and having a good time... I thanked him a million times for his kindness and told him it was nice meeting him. Next thing I know we spend all our free time together or talking to each other. Brian was very unhappy with previous relationships. Unhappy with himself. Wonderful, intelligent, interesting and cute guy. Low self-esteem. When he and I initially met, he had plans to move to Canada, but suddenly his tune changed and Houston wasn't so bad... I think spending time together ALL the time was getting too much for me, and when I tried to chill on "us" he got more and more needy. In any case, when I pushed him out of my life (no-no on my part), not too long after, he moved. "Nothing [was] keeping [him] in Houston." Later on, an ex-boyfriend of mine who turned out was friends with him told me how Brian thought I was "not like other girls" "special" "someone who made him happy" you know... that. Which really brings me to a similar rant. Although, I know I didn't really make my point clearly, but... I don't care. Ah, now my thoughts are all scattered. Well...
Another guy I knew was "in love with me" "had to be with me" but he was engaged. He was always asking if I was interested or would be interested if he left his fiancee. What a winner. And the answer was always no, of coursedly. We'd go long periods of time without talking, infact, he moved, and I'd occasionally hear from him, and it was the same everytime, "our relationship is horrible. Next fight I'm really ending it. Would you ever consider a relationship with me?" "Uh, no. You love her, you're going to work things out. Don't worry." Seriously. "You're the most beautiful girl I've ever met." "You're unique" etc etc. He was actually really good at paying original compliments. Well, some I never received before. He had an unfulfilling relationship, his brother had died around the time he got really persistent with me, work wasn't going great. Pretty much, he was unhappy and for some unknown reason to me, he felt I could provide him with happiness. He got a bit scary, he'd "run" into me frequently and ask about Taylor and me with the most jealous tones. Oh boys...
I've experienced these situations with quite a few more men. All the same, basically.
This is what I'm finding that guys claim we're not like other girls, we're unique/special, we're this, we're that, we're beautiful, we're life-changing. Come on! I don't fall for this shit anymore. It takes a lot for me to think a guy is being genuine when he states these types of things. Which, honestly, has upset a few people for me not believing their sincerity. And of course, in the back, back of my mind I'm second-guessing them. I think that's natural. Maybe I'm living with a cynical sense of mind. Haha. Also, I guess another thing that goes along with my previous "bad boy" entry is that, I find myself wanting attention or something with the guys who don't go overboard with such compliments and what-have-you. I think many girls experience this. I've really gone off my main thoughts. It's been a long, boring, slow day.
xoxox,
Moni
